I knew I needed this post when I googled the words, “Is it possible for introverted moms to love motherhood?”
An hour earlier I had stood at the stove, flipping quesadillas and telling children to—for the love—please get out of my personal space.
“Guys, I can’t make dinner with you right under my feet,” I say, tripping over a little body while I reach for the cheese. “Go! Go play by the couch!”
A minute later, I notice that the reprieve only lasted about ten seconds. I’d had ten precious seconds to take a breath before my agitation jumped back up to the level it had been at when the kids were bouncing at my heels.
This time, the culprit was The Noise.
“Inside voices!” I remind them. “If you want to yell, you can go outside! This is a home.”
Naturally, my reminder falls on deaf ears, because three young children only play at one volume, which is why half an hour later, after brushing three sets of miniature teeth and shooing three heads to their beds, I find myself at the computer typing in a question I would never in a million years have thought to ask—before becoming a mom.
The Question Too Many Introverted Moms Are Asking Themselves
Can introverted moms love motherhood? Can we enjoy it? On a consistent basis? Or are we fated to trudge our way through it, loving our children fiercely while trying just as fiercely not to resent them for stealing away the quiet we’ve relied on all our lives.
I think We Can
I’m here to tell you this:
You’ve spent enough time thinking of your need for quiet as a weakness.
You’ve reeled at how other mothers seem to roll with the yelling, the jumping, the arguing, the clutter, and the nonstop chatter that come with raising children.
You’ve taken refuge in your closet, in the backyard, in your bathroom, in the pantry.
You’ve found yourself insisting that the kids take their antics outside of your immediate space. It’s just too much.
On good days, you manage it all by alternating between low engagement and high. On worse days, you send the kids to bed an hour early—because you just can’t handle it anymore—and you figure you’ll deal with their early wake-up because at least it means you won’t completely lose it tonight.
Motherhood is intense for introverts and highly sensitive people.
And in case you could benefit from definitions of those, let’s go with these:
If you find yourself retreating when you need to recharge, you may be an introvert.
If you’re easily overwhelmed by noise, smells, busyness, and your own thoughts, you may be a highly sensitive person.
With some shifts in your thinking and some tools to help you manage it all, I really believe it can be better, calmer—happier—than what you’re experiencing right now.
eCourse for Introverted Moms
If this struggle is as real for you as it is for me, I’d love for you to check out my ecourse, Talked Out, Touched Out: Learn to Thrive as an Introverted Mom.
The 8 lessons will take you through topics like—
- Accept yourself and know the benefits
- Help your loved ones understand
- Structure your days to accommodate your needs
- Play to your strengths as an introverted parent
And more. 🙂
Registration closes this Sunday (September 17th), and the first lesson goes out the following day, so take a minute and sign up now!
Recently, I asked you all to share advice you’d give a parent who has just discovered the connection between her introversion and her struggles as a parent. No surprise—y’all delivered! So I whipped a PDF of 12 tips for introverted parents, from introverted parents.
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Here’s to grounded, centered, HAPPY introverted moms! You’ve got this.